Posts Tagged ‘gratitude’


It’s Seed Time! How do You Prepare for Tomorrow?

October 8, 2013

Autumn is here and I’m feeling all sorts of positive energy rushes: gratitude, forgiveness, humor, confidence, and more!

Fall is my favorite time of year. I think because for me, it’s a time of reflection and planning. Cleaning and restoring. And I don’t just mean tangible things; I mean emotions, people, organizations, clothes, et al. You see, about three years ago I started a personal tradition of “gratitude letters” where I write to persons, organizations, God and self what I’m grateful for, in order that I may attract more positives into my life. 

Once I’ve given thanks for past blessings, I feel better and more confident about what I still have to accomplish. Gratitude opens my heart to self and other forgiveness. Forgiveness opens my soul to restoration. Sure, there will be things I didn’t accomplish – especially in my own timing – but the gratitude letters already allowed me to measure what I did accomplish.

I’ve even learned to laugh at myself and to divert my attention to more positive things. Things happen everyday that could easily stress me out. Maybe I forgot to get gas the night before, and now in the morning, I find myself late for appointments and meetings – and I must still get gas to make the commute! No point in beating myself up about it; instead I add humor by giving a SelfTalkPepTalk (TM) saying, “You need to take your own preparation advice that you are often asserting to others!” Or, I find myself low on energy and still having several tasks to complete before day’s end. Instead of dwelling over the responsibility I consider how I can make each task fun – and who I can delegate things to. Diversion is a great way to maintain your overall joy.

And let me say this; There are always things left on my to-do list at this fourth-quarter mark (Fall). While I could focus on my let-downs and upsets, I instead choose to be empowered. Gratitude letters activate my empowerment. They remind me of what I have accomplished, of all the goodness, grace and mercy I’ve been granted – despite my everyday mistakes (and I do mean everyday). If you are in my social circles, or if you read my writings you often hear me state “your circumstances don’t define you; your belief does.” I say this because even today, I still have less favorable circumstances I’m working through. To some, they may be considered failure. For me, however, failure does not exist. Failed events are lessons that allow me to evaluate what I can improve on, and/or simply let go. All things are not correctable by my own abilities; some things simply must be removed. 

Alas, once I’ve been grateful, restored, forgiven and empowered, I have to get to work! Clean up is an essential step in preparing for tomorrow’s harvest. You see, if we are honest with ourselves, most of us can identify at least one weed in our lives. Maybe it’s those gossiping co-workers that distract you from work efficiency and fill your mind with discontent for your workplace. Or perhaps its that toxic girlfriend you’ve known since your youth but have nothing in common with, so out of guilt, you keep running back to her for friendship security. At worst, it’s a few family members who diminish your self belief. I can relate to all weeds mentioned, and some.

Fall is clean- up time. We all have to pick out our weeds and plant new seeds in their place. I’m talking about stale friendships; your overcommitments to organizations and people who deplete you; I’m talking about those negative thoughts that hold you captive to your past and or your fears; I’m even talking about the outside self image! Maybe you need a self-brand uplift; if so, don’t be afraid to let go of old looks and embrace a new outward you! 

Whatever is holding you back, be sure to weed it out and plant new seeds (of intention) in its place and maintain a positive mental attitude to keep you on course.

It’s seed time! What will you plant (and weed out) for tomorrow’s success? What habits and strategies keep you on course with your goals? Share your stories with me; I’m always open to feedback. 

Wishing you your best, while in pursuit of the best me. 

Turqueya – “striving for Epitome” 






Is Your Attitude Stealing Your Gratitude?

November 23, 2011

Fall is my favorite time of year. I love the season’s appearance – especially in North Carolina. It gears me up for change. I enjoy the brisk walks on our unlimited greenways; letting my daughter collect the color-changing leaves, the coolness in the temperature. The overall freshness. Fall sets the tone for the new year. It kicks me into visionary thoughts of my near future. It helps me to prepare for CHANGE.

Fall is the pre-season to your succeeding year’s goals and objectives. We have to plan now next year, and the traditional holiday of Thanksgiving is the perfect time of year to set things in perspective, if they were not already.  Thanksgiving. Giving Thanks. This holiday traditionally finds family, friends, and general kin folks in unity of mind – a mind of gratitude. It’s common to gather around the feast and orally express what you are thankful and grateful for. For those who’ve had a year in unison with their plans, this is easy. But what about those of us who feel like we are in a state of lack? It can be difficult to give thanks when you feel like life has been anything but gracious to you.

It’s no secret that we attract what we think about. So today, on the eve of our traditional U.S holiday of being thankful, I want to encourage us all to adopt the habits associated with this day, everyday. That habit is a gratitude mentality.

Wake up and give thanks for the nature’s resources – air, land, water, heat. Then give thanks for you – your heart beat, your health, your working ligaments.

Give thanks for your trials because you are still standing. Give thanks for support – from family, friends, and even strangers. It is grace that allows people to come into your life at such a time when you need them most.

Give thanks for all your life’s lessons. When we get to the core of each of them, it’s very common to find a blessing. At the least, it will be grace. An event happened that saved you from a more complicated event. In its greatest form, it could be the birth of your dreams.

I started my path as a motivational speaker and self-help writer as a direct result of the trials I’ve endured in my life, AND gained victory over.

Thanksgiving is habit to practice daily, as it will set the tone of your day and open space for more things to give thanks. I challenge myself and all of you to put on a new set of lenses. Habitually giving thanks today – with a genuine appreciation for all that exists – gravitates more greatness towards us. This works well with annual planning. If you see no blessings in what you have, how can you attract blessings tomorrow?

Don’t worry about the things you have not. They are coming. In due season. Work diligently for them, and trust they’ll arrive on time.

Don’t stress about old friends, materials or feelings that used to be connected to you. It’s true; you have to let go of the old to make room for the new.

Don’t be anxious about yourself, but be guided by the greater forces around you and in you.

“Blessed, fortunate, happy and prosperous are those who hunger and thirst after righteousness, for they shall be completely satisfied. ” This is what my favorite book promises.

CHANGE your lens.  Are you letting your attitude of lack interfere with your blessings by missing the gratitude in the lesson?

Perhaps you failed to see the  painful exemptions you were granted by enduring temporary setbacks. Is it possible all things are working for you – even that which you cannot see?

If you want a positive and prosperous tomorrow, you must adapt an attitude of gratitude.

Change your mind. It’ll change your life – and give you inner peace!

Today I’m devoted to moving with love – even to those things that have cost me something, because I trust it’s all working out for my good. This is my gratitude. What’s yours? Leave a post and share your gratitude with me.